You got e-mail! It’s Sofia from the USA and she wants to snailmail with you! You get excited, dreaming away about the lovely snailmail you will receive from Sofia… But; she wants you to go first! Now what?
Depending on your snailmailpal, you might want to discuss a theme. This makes the snailmail more coherent and the content a lot more fun to compile. Once a theme is set, you can start. I like to start with the letter first. Get a nice piece of notebook paper, stationary or whatever you feel comfortable with. I’ll stamp the paper first with an inkstamp, so my writing will go over the stamp (instead of the other way around).
Get your favorite pen and sit down, breathe and try to relax and let your mind flow. Ask about your penpal, but don’t overdo it. Keep in mind that your questions depend on how much contact you had trough mail or chat. Here’s a little start:
I am very happy that you would like to snailmail with me! It is very cold down here, there’s even a lot of snow.
How’s the weather over there? Currently I am drinking strawberry tea and listening to some folk music.
Do you like tea? Or are you more a coffee person? And what type of music do you like?
You can continue in this matter, but ofcourse it depends completely on your mood & style. It can be difficult to write 2 or 3 full pages, so I always write one page on my first snailmail. Here is a list of keep-in-minds when writing your very first snailmail.
- Your penpal is not a diary. Respond to the letter received, instead of writing a complete new story
- Keep it light, especially on your first snailmail. Once you feel comfortable enough, you can write about things that worry or scare you
- Don’t ask too much questions. Your penpal also wants to tell a story, not answer quizzes through mail
- Stick to the theme. You both agreed on this theme, if you choose to ignore it, your penpal will feel disappointed
- Don’t feel a connection? Let your penpal know, this is a normal and polite thing to do (instead of keeping her waiting)
- It’s called snailmail for a reason. Don’t rush!
- Take your time to answer your penpal with thoughtful mail, put your heart in it
Got more tips? Let me know!